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How often do we shun the efforts of those around us, maybe because we fear their motives
or their expectations of us.
Maybe we need to be more trusting, having more faith in Him who is in us.
Many times we ask for something new in our lives and almost in the very same breath we
close the doors of opportunity with our preconceptions, fear based beliefs and
prejudgements.
Many times, making excuses, avoiding the gift that has been prepared for us.
Perhaps already expecting the worst.
Are we fortune tellers are we mind readers?
So many times I have caught my self deciding what others around me are going to think.
The thing that dawned on me a long time ago is that I am not the other person.
People are not wired up the same as I am and therefore I cannot possibly know what
another persons response is going to be.
The self provides us with many excuses, to be sceptical to the power that is within each and
every one of us, that power is Love.
The self will warn us to proceed cautiously, to avoid giving or receiving because we may
be taken advantage of.
We must know who we are and understand that nobody has the power to take advantage of
us unless we allow them to, because there is a pay-off for us.
Do we keep silent or do we speak out at the appropriate times.
We must stay true at all times.
A lady once shared that she was extremely fed up with a particular friend that kept visiting
her house at inconvenient times.
She said that she was angry at this person for doing so.
Being afraid that she would have to be rude to her, she did her best to avoid her, even
though she really valued her as a friend.
I asked her why she wasn’t able to say to her visitor that she would appreciate her calling
before coming around?
Oh she said I cant do that, it would upset her and I wouldn’t want to lose her friendship.
Wasn’t she already losing it and by her own choice?
This lady was doing what we so often do, deciding how the other person would respond to
us.
By allowing so much anger to fester, she was already losing the friendship she treasured.
Surely a good friend would understand and appreciate her honesty?
Instead the visitor was oblivious to the irritation her friend was feeling.
The outcome of their relationship could have been destroyed or strengthened depending on
the decision of the lady in question.
There was a pay-off for this lady, or so she thought and it was to be liked at all costs.
Maybe so, but in fact she was heading toward a road that would have caused her to
explode, saying something she didn’t mean and justifying it afterwards, how many times do
we fall into this trap.
If we were to put ourselves in the visitors shoes, would we not prefer and respect our
friends honesty from the start?
We cannot expect others to read our minds, and it is not rude to express the truth to those
around us as long as we remember to do it with care and respect.
Then we will receive the same in return.
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